I’ve never really been one for New Year’s Resolutions, and as I discover more about myself I think I’m figuring out why: I have unrealistic expectations when I decide to make behavior changes.
Mind-blowing, isn’t it? I’m sure nobody else ever saw that coming. My mom for sure will be flabbergasted when I bestow upon her such enlightenment.
Here’s the thing: I’ve always been told that I need to have goals. Without goals, I won’t have any reason to stride toward achievements. That’s probably true. But nobody ever really taught me how to set reasonable goals. OK, that’s probably not true. I just didn’t listen.
When I set goals, they tend to be along the lines of “I’m going to write a book…this year!” or “I’m going to lose 20 pounds…this month!” or “I’m going to wake up early and work out…at 4 am!” You see the picture?
I basically determined that I’m not a “resolutions person” because I suck at goals…because I suck at being realistic in my expectations. Two things I don’t suck at though: self-reflection and procrastination. What do you get when the two combine? Revelations about my behavior, without any real effort to make changes…which just happens to be what NYRs are all about, right?
OK, so when I had to come up with a Resolution for something work-related the other day, I chose the first thing that popped into my chaotic little head: “Blog more.”